An Ordinary Life

“You are one hundred percent wrong, one hundred percent wrong!” said one Greek to another at the table beside us where four older men sat playing cards. The fifth man didn’t appear interested in cards but rather, wanted to discuss politics. This further provoked the speaker to proclaim, “The conversation is distracting me.” The words floated over to where Laurence and I sat eating baba gonoush with warm pita and a lamb gyro. (I reported this to Dana today when we had coffee. She replied, “It’s worth going to Port Washington just to eat there.”) We topped it off with a free piece of walnut baklava from the black-haired staff behind the counter. No waiter today.

The Greek restaurants we know are decorated with the colors of the flag and this one was no exception with its blue-painted walls, white trim, white tables and chairs. Blue represents the Aegean Sea, while white signifies the clouds and purity. (Our bedroom has sea-blue walls, white trim, and curtains, but we’re not Greek.)

Laurence and I sat beside the large windows overlooking Manhasset Bay. Afterwards, we walked by the bay and then back along Main to the train station. Long Island has its own culture. It’s near the City, but it is not the City – not the Big Apple that never sleeps. It was Monday and many of the stores were closed.

It was a 35 minute train ride from the Port Washington train station to Woodside, Queens, where we transferred to a 7 train.

Now I must add a thrilling announcement that isn’t Greek: After months of construction, the Flushing-bound 7-train is stopping at 82nd Street! This means no more long walks down Broadway for us.

Berniece

Ps Laurence gave the title and wondered if I couldn’t write a blog.

Thirty plus people along with table, tracts, cart, and water bottles tap through the turnstiles and board the A train to ride downtown to 42nd Street, Times Square. A lone singer stands in the chosen spot by the Port Authority Bus Terminal, so we string out with the commuters moving through the tunnel toward the 7, 1, 2, 3, N, Q, R, and the shuttle to Grand Central. A mother runs past us in the opposite direction, pushing her cart of churros. A little girl runs beside her. Behind her a black, shaggy-haired small boy turned man pulls an ice chest. He’s running too, from the authorities that want them cleared out. I want to sweep these children into my arms and keep them safe, but our group moves on until it halts by the stairway going down to the 7 train.

We sing, “Power in the blood; amazing grace; how sweet the sound; love lifted me; do Lord, do remember me.” One Pentecostal fellow passing by shows us how we could be dancing about, but it is not our custom. There are thumbs up and smiles and those who make the Sign of the Cross. People drag suitcases, push strollers, and carry bags. There are families and couples, mentally ill, and preachers (if I judge their dress correctly). Some sing along. Others video the group.

Meanwhile, Gospel tracts and children’s Bible story books were reaching the multitudes. Our Ghanian friend Eric faithfully passed out tracts. It was only a few months ago that he received a tract here in this subway station. Through this, Eric met Jesus and now, he’s sharing the joy. Tony  sang along with the group, also there because of tract outreach. The brothers and sisters took their turns. I passed out a few with the usual results of heads shaking no, or hands outstretched, and some with eyes averted. But hands down, DeeDee passed out the most tracts, literally jogging to and from the tract table to restock after having given out a bundle. DeeDee worships with us because one of the young men invited her to church.

Laurence and I went downstairs to the 7 train when the group went for a service at the Bowery Mission. We left Manhattan and rode out to 74th Street in Queens where we transferred to an R train.  It blessed my heart to see one of our tracts on a ledge as we rode down the escalator, and the information about the mission location in another place in the station. The tracts handed out yesterday didn’t just stay in Manhattan but could be going into all the world.

God’s Word will surely not return unto Him void. Pray for the work and the workers in the City, and thank you to the Gospel Tract Board for their vision of fields white for harvest.

Berniece

“The ninety-nine within the fold,
Are safe from fears and storms of night,
But one is on the mountains cold,
’Twill perish there—how sad the sight!

Refrain:
“Go search it out, and bring it home,
No more in darkness let it roam;
You’ll find it there in dreadful plight,
Oh! go and bring it back tonight.

2 “The ninety-nine are safe today,
They’re all at home, so fully blest,
But one is wandering far away
Upon the mountain’s snowy crest. [Refrain]

3 “The ninety-nine with care are fed,
And rest within the shepherd’s fold;
But one is starving, nearly dead,
Upon the mountains bare and cold. [Refrain]

4 “The shepherd dear aloud doth weep,
Because one lamb afar doth roam;
The ninety-nine he’ll safely keep—
We’ll seek that lamb and bring it home. [Refrain]
Author: William G. Schell

I had an attitude about the young man sleeping in our living room. (This was back in the day when visitors to the city rarely got a motel room.) Peter – I’ll call him – was not an acquaintance. He was just along for the ride and to have a good time in NYC. I knew Peter had strayed from the Fold and was not living a godly life. I only saw him as a bother.

The Lord looked at Peter completely different than I did. I woke up that first night when Peter was in our home with the words of the above song playing out in my mind: “The Shepherd dear aloud doth weep. Go search it out and bring it home.” Several times during the night a different verse from the song came to me. The Lord who loves “the one wandering far away,” gave me a love for Peter. (Even today while riding the train to church, it makes my heart soft and my eyes teary to think of it.) I loved Peter and wanted to be his friend. I recall chatting with him one day while riding a crowded train; no more did he seem like a bother to me.

Though I lost track of Peter, I did not stop praying for him. Years later, we met up with Peter and his wife at a Peruvian restaurant in Queens. He had returned to the Fold and married a lovely Christian sister. I shared with Peter and his wife that evening of God’s love and how it changed me. Love changed Peter. After telling my story, Peter’s wife said, “No wonder.” It was love that drew the lost one back to the Fold.

The D train is almost at 145th Street Station, the stop for Sugar Hill Mennonite Mission. Today, we’ll worship with people of different tribes and nations. It’s the Sunday for singing and passing out Gospel tracts in a subway station and for a Bowery service. God loves everyone!

Berniece

The Cambria Heights Queens library website calendar said, “Please join us Wednesday mornings for workshops on machine quilting. We will learn basic sewing stitches to create beautiful individual and group projects that will be showcased in our annual art exhibit. All are welcome, supplies will be available for use during the sessions.” The key words: “Please join us, basic, supplies available, all welcome” made me think this would be an interesting adventure. (My mom says that maybe Laurence should stop some of my adventures, but Laurence is the one who opened my world to such. He’s fine as long as he feels like it’s safe.) Not that quilting is my thing. It isn’t, but I thought it would be kinda nice to be able to relate a little to all my crafty, quilter Mennonite friends.

Cambria Heights is not someplace where we have spent much time. I know very little about it. It’s on the edge of Queens and not near a subway line. I told Laurence, “I expect to be with a group of elderly White ladies.”

I rode the M train to Forest Hills where I switched to an E train to Jamaica Center.  From there, I followed the signs to the  Q4 bus. The wind blew in the below freezing temperatures as I waited and waited for a bus (maybe 30 minutes). I didn’t wait alone. Several times, a van drew up and some boarded. Dollar vans to where? I didn’t know the system and wasn’t brave enough to get on. The Q4 finally came and I rode 26 stops until I reached the library. Clearly, I was in a Black section of Queens, and yes, the ladies were all African American and on a first name basis. Like, “Oh Joanne is back. How’s your Dad?” I’m thinking I felt like any one of them would have if they’d go to a Holdeman Mennonite Sewing day! They each had their projects – some amazing work – as they are getting ready for a quilt show during Black History Month. They were nice to me. Greeted me and all, but I just didn’t fit in, and when I could comfortably leave, I did.

I took the bus back to Jamaica. White folks don’t go there much either, but we occasionally do, and I felt comfortable walking there. Years ago, we used to go to a food court, and now I found that it’s still open. I went in and had some scrumptious pupusas, feeling content with my lot in life.

I came home and sewed with my own machine. The ladies told me to come back after the quilt show, but I’d decided it wasn’t a place for me. However, while ironing the facing on a new dress, I started having second thoughts. What if we could get acquainted, learn each other’s names, could ask how their dad is doing, and tell them I lost mine in July. Maybe they’re Southern Baptists, and we could discuss the Gospel.

I’ll see how the Lord directs my steps. For now, Laurence is home and it’s time to make supper.

Berniece

Come join me for a cup of hot pomegranate tea. I went out, planning to go to the mall; however, I met the neighbor lady coming from the train and we stopped to talk. Rebeca and I did not  let the noise of trains entering and leaving the station keep us from catching up on each other’s lives. I congratulated her on their son’s engagement. As often happens in this city, it will be a marriage of nations.

I boarded the train: “Grand, “Woodhaven” where the mall is, “Rego Park.” Then I remembered that Laurence suggested I buy tea. Forget the mall! I’d rather wander through the Russian stores, so I went to Rego Park where it’s enjoyable to observe the Russians and look at the dark breads, perogies, the meats, soups, sweets, and the Holy (Jerusalem) Hummus.  I stocked up with four boxes of relaxing tea for our evenings.

I was surprised to see one of our Russian customers Saturday morning at market. She’d planned to go to Russia last week. She told me her dad died so she hadn’t traveled. She’s been going back and forth a lot because of the care of her father. (It’s difficult to travel to Russia just now.) He used to be here. He was a writer, so we got along.

After 30 years of following Laurence around NYC, I’ve developed a curiosity to understand the cultures, and foods of all God’s people. Friday afternoon with my work done (it doesn’t take long to clean our small apartment), I took the bus to Middle Village and walked there. We had cheese perogies, almost like mom’s, for lunch today that I bought in a European Deli there (the clerk didn’t bother to be friendly). I went into an Italian bakery and a Mexican one. I looked around in an Italian meat market ($11.99 for a package of ravioli). And, for the record, I also stopped at the Dollar Store and the Salvation Army Store.

Laurence worked Saturday so had last Wednesday off. We took the train to Poughkeepsie and walked from the station to a Japanese restaurant for lunch. I ordered sushi. The variety plate looked like a work of art and tasted as good as it looked. Laurence had a bento box with teriyaki chicken. Afterwards we walked on to Papa Akinyombo’s place. The visit there was enriching. We help each other on the road to Heaven.

Sunday services at Sugar Hill continue to be well attended. I asked one of the new attendees if he has family here. He said that he doesn’t. I told him we’d be his family. He laughed and said, “Will you please? I need a family. My family is bad.” Pray for the attendees. Pray for us. As the world gets darker the Light shines brighter. There’s a mission staff, young men, and tracts workers in this city who are letting the Light shine.

I hear children playing by the building entrance as I write this, along with the murmur of voices on the other side of the wall. Laurence works until eight this evening – a 12-hour day for him.

I looked down from my kitchen window, one day last week, to the kitchen opposite and below us. Curtains hid the face of my neighbor but their happy face slippers made me smile.

Wishing you a life of smiles. Berniece

HUMILITY

This year I want to be clothed with humility. Christ became a servant. He’s my greatest example. I detest pride in others, but I’m rather blind to my own.

An author wrote that at 80 years old, she can let others live their lives without thinking she has to change them. I’m inspired to be this way at 64, practicing humility by not pushing my (wonderful to me) ideas. Humility trusts; is not anxious; loves. Humility commends others without promoting one’s own self. It’s hard to offend a humble person. Humility and simplicity go hand in hand. It doesn’t compare itself with others. Humility promotes unity rather than division.

Someone asked Corrie Ten Boom how she handled the compliments and praise that were heaped on her. “She said she looked at each compliment as a long-stemmed flower given to her. She smelled it for a moment and then put it into a vase with the others. Each night just before retiring, she took the beautiful bouquet and handed it over to God saying, ‘Thank you, Lord, for letting me smell the flowers; they all belong to you.’”

I’ve never forgotten the elderly man seated near us in a restaurant who bragged all evening to his friend about his accomplishments – his car, his education, and even how the beautiful woman he’d been with turned the heads of everyone in the room. Honestly, it stank! I am giving you permission to remind me of my WOTY when you see the ugly head of pride rising up in my life.

The key to loving and being loved is to be humble; to laugh at my mistakes, and to be able to say “I am wrong!” This year I want to grow in the grace of humility. Berniece

P.s. What would you pick for a word of the year?

The world looks washed clean this morning A cross, bridges, rooftops, bare branches, and the city skyline, timeless and lovely from our view on the 7 train. Heaven closed 2024 with a resounding winter thunderstorm. Afterwards, wave after wave of fireworks brought in 2025. The ball dropped in Times Square.

“Will you turn the coffee pot on?” 2025 began in the same manner as 2024 did – the Word and prayer. It’s these early mornings with God that sustained us in 2024. They will in 2025.

We’re riding to the magnificent Grand Central Station where we plan to catch the Metro North train for that beautiful ride (too many adjectives?) along the Hudson River to Poughkeepsie. Sister Christianah is preparing Nigerian food for us and the family. Brandt and Abigael (Daramola) Nightingale are out. Eric, our friend from Ghana will ride the train with us. I can’t think of a better way to begin 2025.

Yesterday in the building elevator, my neighbor wished me a “Happy New Year.” I returned the greeting, saying that I hoped 2025 would be a better year than 2024 had been. I was reproved when she said, “I’m glad to be alive. I work at Elmhurst Hospital where I see so many young people die – twenty-two years old! I’m glad to be alive,” she repeated.

I read Psalm 51 this morning. I love it and the washing while I read, and then on to the verse I woke up with,  “But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ” (2 Peter 3:18). This is my desire in 2025 for myself and each of you.

God bless you in the New Year. Thank you for your friendship. Berniece

Evening: Lights line the shore across the Hudson River outside the train windows. We fared sumptuously on Nigerian food for dinner. Before dinner, Minister Isaac Akinyombo prayed a New Year’s blessing. Brother Dayo encouraged us to not mind the length of the prayer (because of dinner waiting), and I felt it was the best way to begin 2025. After several lively discussions, the songbooks came out and voices blended in praise to our Creator. We ended with, “Blest be the Tie that Binds.” It’s been a day to hold in our memory.

by Robert Louis Stevenson

Loving Father,
Help us remember the birth of Jesus,
that we may share in the song of the angels,
the gladness of the shepherds,
and worship of the wise men.

Close the door of hate
and open the door of love all over the world.
Let kindness come with every gift
and good desires with every greeting.
Deliver us from evil by the blessing
which Christ brings,
and teach us to be merry with clear hearts.

May the Christmas morning
make us happy to be thy children,
and Christmas evening bring us to our beds
with grateful thoughts,
forgiving and forgiven,
for Jesus’ sake.

Amen.

It’s Christmas time in the city. Lights dazzle and sparkle. In our home, the red petals of a small poinsettia are backed by the  flourishing green plant of the bedroom window.  Cards from friends decorate. The table holds a candle in a holder that says, “Christ the light.” I witnessed the man from across the street walk carefully down icy steps to give the mail carrier a small Christmas package. It reminds me, we need to prepare a card with a bonus for our hard-working superintendent. Churches across the city will have a service this evening.

It looks like the Lord put us in Elmhurst, and He wants us to stay in the city this Christmas when families everywhere are feasting and fellowshipping. We’ve had the privilege of caroling in a subway station near us and also, in Penn Station. Thousands of commuters heard the singing. Clay, Rodger, and Dexter shared the Christmas story in a tract. I gave a children’s Bible story book to a homeless young woman who stood by her garbage bag of goods at the Roosevelt Avenue Station. 

Sheila Petre sent me her book, Prayers for my Hometown. It inspired me to write a simple prayer:

Dear God, As the snow gently falls on the community this Christmas Eve, make our hearts white, our minds pure, and our path illuminated by your light. I pray that the homeless will be sheltered by You. Keep us from evil.

In Jesus name, amen.

May the peace of Christmas rest upon you.

Berniece

Snow falls gently on the town this early Saturday morning. It’s a Christmas card picture in the playground with lamplight glow on tree branches layered in snow. I pray, “Wash me and I shall be whiter than snow.”

I’m on the train to market, the last one before Christmas. 2024 draws to a close. Reflecting back, I remember the passing of loved ones, Laurence’s major eye surgeries, and the peace of God that passes all understanding – the peace of quiet places while knowing the presence of God whether it be in our small apartment, the chapel at Sugar Hill, an old cabin on South Hero Island in Vermont, or on this train where commuters sleep.

And now it’s a cold Sunday morning. I’ll wear leggings and tights to church. It’s the Sunday for a service at Bowery Mission and for singing carols in the subway. However now is the quiet time of worship in our bedroom. Laurence says, “I was impressed yesterday with the verse, ‘Wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.'”

“I was too.”

“Do you think this means once in a while or daily?”

It’s time to prepare for the day: to put Sunday school books and salad fixings in the backpack, stick an Omni card in my pocket, and pull on mittens. First though, I turn my Bible to Revelation 7:14, “They have washed their robes and made them white in the blood of the Lamb.” Washed whiter than snow by the blood of the Lamb! Because of this we have a carol to sing, a tract to give, a Bible story book for a child or for the homeless young woman whose children have been taken from her.

The angels sang to the shepherds, “Glory to God in the highest heaven, and on earth peace to those on whom his favor rests.” Washed whiter than snow, experiencing peace is my prayer for each of us. 

Merry Christmas! Berniece